The Mean girl Syndrome?
There are a few major ways in which the sisterhood wound shows up, and most of it can be summed up with the phrase “mean girl.” Whether you have been a “mean girl”, been on the receiving end of a “mean girl” or been both; it affects all of us. It can start out harmlessly enough, a little healthy competition in school, within the family, society norms; it is all being rationalized and normalized so much so that it is now a way of life. As I stated in my previous post. It has almost become a rite of passage for girls to go through this “mean girl” phase. Which brings me to the energetics of it all. During the time frame that girls are considered to be "mean girls” is typically around preteen to teenage years. This is when their Sacral chakra is developing, which is all about relationships and learning and feeling their emotions. So, a lot of heavy emotions, and understanding their differences in the opposite sex, what is attractive to them and what is not, forming relationships both romantic and platonic. There is a lot to unpack in there. Then, comes the teenage years, where their Solar Plexus chakra is developing. This governs their sense of self and understanding who they are. Those parents of teenagers, know what I am talking about. LOL. This is why we get a little more rebellious, push or pull back, want to fit in, want to be treated as an individual from the family, but as a whole with their peer group. This is where the social anxiety and fitting in comes into play, and how the sisterhood wound really starts to manifest and take shape.
Here are the ways in which this “mean girl” expresses itself within us:
Rejection: Not belonging, feeling alone, shunned. “You can’t sit with us” , “You are not invited”
Betrayal: Gossiping, cattiness, lying, distrust “I thought she was my friend”, “I trusted you”
Inauthenticity: Backstabbing, two faced, pretentious “She is so fake”
Comparison: Judging, jealousy, inadequacy or superior “Look at her clothes”, “She is not pretty”
Competition: Scarcity, lack, I need to prove . . . , not enoughness “Look at her, why can’t I be like that?”, “I’m better than she is”, “I’m prettier than her.”
OK, so, if all that did not stir up some stuff in you. . . because it did with me!
Now, close your eyes, place your hands on your thighs and inhale through your nose and then fully exhale through your mouth. Do this 3 more times. Now, I want you to do a self assessment here with this information to find your top two ways in which the sister wound triggers you the most.
Read through each bullet; listen and feel into your body when you read each bullet. Rate yourself on a scale from 1(doesn’t affect me at all) to 10 (triggers the hell outta me). You will know because you may have a quickening in your heartbeat and other physical sensations, maybe memories, pictures feelings pop up, uncomfortableness and different emotions stirring.
Now that you know how you are triggered most by this wounding. I want you to go back to the list you wrote out from Series 1 of the Sisterhood wound and see how these triggers relate to what you wrote down. You should come up with some great revelations here. Now, I know that this can be uncomfortable bringing up things that don’t make us feel good, but this is how we heal, Sister, and this is how we move through and heal others! Now burn, shred, do what you need to do get rid of that paper say “Thank you for the awareness”
Now, listen to this short and powerful healing meditation that is infused with the frequency of love and compassion to help you integrate all the revelations you have discovered that lead you to a deeper healing and connection.
Mean Girl Mediation - Healing the Sacral and Solar Plexus
The reason I am bringing awareness to this major wound of the feminine is that the more awareness we have, the more we can start to heal this within ourselves, our family and soon treating other women with respect, empowering them, rooting for each other, feeling secure and confident around each other will be the new social norm! Instead of the “mean girl” rite of passage it will be “together we rise”.
Stay tuned for next week as we tackle, the Mother . . .
